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The art of foreplay... turn your woman on!

The art of foreplay… turn your woman on!

It’s been a while since I’ve put a straight forward technical challenge on here, so here goes… I read quite a thorough sort of blog recently about why foreplay is so important. Yes…yes…yes!! If you are not enjoying sex, chances are it is because you are not being properly warmed...
So what is 'the claw' and how will it make me orgasm?

So what is ‘the claw’ and how will it make me orgasm?

Apart from being the namesake of this blog, ‘the claw’ is what I refer to as a fail safe female orgasm technique (or How To Make A Woman Come 1001 class). It can be used ‘DIY’ or can be used by a partner on you. The latter is only better...
The art of the blow job

The art of the blow job

Fellatio or a ‘blow job’ is probably one of the most intimate parts of your sexual practice. It’s one of few times where there is an equal balance of power and submission happening at the same time. It is pleasure being given, but at the same time it’s placing the...
The so-called marital 'problems'

The so-called marital ‘problems’

I read an article on Yahoo via Woman’s Day (I know, good gawd!) about what people perceive as common marriage problems and why they might actually be good for your marriage. The nine problems the article highlights are: fantasising about other people arguing frequently him going out with the guys him...
Vagina monologues

Vagina monologues

Oh my goodness, this week I watched this show on the ABC called Tribal Wives and I was really moved. Not least because it was interesting to see how different others’ lives and cultures can be but because of what I learned about female circumcision. I flinch even typing that...
The things we don't say - business, babies and bullshit

The things we don’t say – business, babies and bullshit

Notice how we’re all sending each other uplifting and inspiring statements on Facebook at the moment? Stuff like: “You can do it!” “Failure is the path to success” “Money doesn’t count” “Do what you love and love what you do” “Sail the ship back to your relationship”  - okay I...
More sex = better health

More sex = better health

Sexual fun fact of the day… Men who have sex 3 or more times a week can cut their risk of heart attack or stroke in half. Learned this from the good people at Men’s Health magazine. I recounted it to my husband who smiled and said, “yes, it’s like...
How well do you know your vagina?

How well do you know your vagina?

I don’t understand why you wouldn’t want to get to know your vagina if you’re a woman. And if you’re a heterosexual man, why you wouldn’t want to study a vagina. In the same vein that you know which kind of body shape you are, where you are likely to...
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Free love in relationships

Free love in relationships

I’ve had guest bloggers writing before on swinging which can be a foundation of the ‘free love’ idea. But I guess I haven’t really written much about it. It’s usually a book or documentary or a good conversation that gets me inspired to write about a topic. In this case it was Dawn Porter’s doco...
Losing your virginity stories

Losing your virginity stories

Been meaning to write for a while about my experience of reading Holly Aitchison’s lovely lo-fi zine: ‘Slorch-o-Rama’ - the first issue shares real women’s experiences of losing their virginity. Firstly it’s so cute – old school with the black and white photocopier put to its best use. For something filled with sexual content, the way it...
Writing your own book of love (and lust)

Writing your own book of love (and lust)

Loved reading this post on Mums on the Go recently, it was about anniversary traditions. The writer, Linda, has a journal which she writes in on her wedding anniversary every year. It’s called ‘The Book of Love’ and it’s an opportunity to reflect on the previous year of her relationship and might be a wonderful...
Does lady-part-love lead to life success?

Does lady-part-love lead to life success?

Loving your lady parts Here’s an interesting video I was recommended to watch – a TEDx talk “Loving your lady parts as a path to success, power and global change” by a lady, Alisa Vitti, who started a holistic health centre for women having menstruation / hormonal etc problems. She’s one of these less-drugs/better-nutrition types...
Do men really want sex more than women?

Do men really want sex more than women?

What do women want sexually? Read a very interesting article I found through a friend of mine, talking about the history of men’s and women’s attitudes to sex. These days the prevailing thought or stereotype is that men want it much more than the ladies. You might assume that this is based on years of...
The difference between sex and intimacy in relationships

The difference between sex and intimacy in relationships

There’s this adage that men often confuse sex and intimacy in relationships and that the two are not the same thing. You read this sort of complaint article in magazines all the time. I glanced at a headline recently myself…and voila! Blog topic! I agree that intimacy can be a whole lot of other things...
When is your true sexual prime?

When is your true sexual prime?

Does sex get better as life goes on… I’ve been reading this rather lovely blog call The Re-Wilding a link that I got through positive-ageing website Womanglow which a friend runs. The Re-Wilding blog talked about the ageing process in relation to sexuality. Sex as seniors… wowsers… my first reaction to that is that it’s all too...
Why bother making time for sex?

Why bother making time for sex?

Chances are if you’re reading this blog you already believe that having a fulfilling sex life is part of a healthy relationship and living life fully. I believe that it is. It’s about fully understanding the one body you’re given – seeing it as an extension of the mind we cultivate from such early days....
Turning sex into exercise (and having fun in the process)

Turning sex into exercise (and having fun in the process)

I’ve written before about two or three very quick and easy things women can do to turn sex into a muscle-building exercise workout that also enhances yours (and his) pleasure. But I bring it up again today because of a funny chat I had with my husband the other day where I mentioned how sex...
Sports, Art, Sydney Mardi Gras 2013 and Equality

Sports, Art, Sydney Mardi Gras 2013 and Equality

It’s the Sydney Mardis Gras 2013 this weekend, a time when I sit by my apartment window for some of the most interesting people watching of the year. Costumes, make up, excitement, the opportunity to let loose and enjoy a bit of the limelight, or be happily overshadowed by more dazzling rhinestones than yours. It’s...
Lady of the Vulva, literotica and Seinfeld

Lady of the Vulva, literotica and Seinfeld

So I’ll be honest. Writing a blog about sex puts me in the way of some very interesting characters. It is not unusual for the words ‘yoni’ or ‘ladygarden’ to feature heavily in conversation. My twitter feed is full of these sorts of hashtags: #sacredsex #divinegoddess #tantricawakening. I read this stuff without even cracking a...
The Large Labia Project – why labiaplasty is not the answer

The Large Labia Project – why labiaplasty is not the answer

Well I was just writing about the wonderful diversity in shapes and sizes of the human bod, last week, when I discovered via a nude ocean swim at The Sydney Skinny, that no two genitalia are ever alike!  So it’s only fitting that this week’s ‘Real Woman – Real Story’ comes from ‘Emma’ – a...